Reflection

I noticed that I had never thought about anyone else, including myself, the way Johari windows tells us to do. I learned that I was limited within what I know and you know. I never thought that there were many things of someone that I did not know of. Furthermore, I only know that the hidden things are God's; we do not need to know, but now what I reflected is that I can know more than I expected about others and of God himself if I raise good questions and am curious genuinely, while what is revealed is for us to know. Then I was thinking of only. While learning about the Johari tools drew my attention and raised what the Johari tools are. I watched carefully, and it made a difference to my views about my life and others.

 It helped me to be patient and comfortable in silence. Back then, I used to walk away if there was nothing to talk and listen to. because I thought that it was not necessary to stay without silence. The more I used to be silent with people, it would always make me uncomfortable, but now I have learned and started thinking that there is more I do know of so I can stay and be patient and feel comfortable.

People used to ask me questions, like, 'Is there anything you want to let me know?' after having one and a half hours of good conservation. I used to wander to ask why he or she was asking such a question, or I simply used to say no and walk away. But now, I know that raising such a question helped to understand what is below the surface. I get surprised to learn such insight. I have responded to my client with the same question: Is there anything I don't know about you, and do you want to let me know? It helped me to be more effective in my personal and professional life.

 

While having my first Zoom call in week 2, I was surprised when one of my colleagues raised a question, saying that he is familiar with biblical counselling, including Jay Adams and John MacArthur. I was curious about that as well, but Professor Brandon made things clear. It was crystal clear for me. I am new to the counselling field and have recently been engaging in the counselling field. I have searched and found more biblical counselling based on Christian faith. Then, I was wondering how I am growing. At that time Professor told us that the integration of special revelation and general revelation in the counselling made me more confident in my counselling career, and I am looking forward to learning more about it. 

I was confused among the terms like 'psychologist', 'psychiatrist' and 'counsellor' while working in an organisation. I still remembered that I asked one of my colleagues. He said that a psychiatrist is superior to a psychologist. I said, 'Oh, okay.' I was not confident enough to say anything about it if somebody asked. But not the optional video I watched made me clearer and made me able to share with my siblings as well. I am feeling like I am growing in this field and being effective as a person. Another thing is that I just remembered that in my workplace people are arguing, and can psychologists prescribe the medicine? Some say yes, while others say no. As a conclusion, they both agree that psychologists don't prescribe. Watching the video reminded me of these things and helped me to be clearer on these terms.

In our culture, I have seen that people do not talk about their past. If we raise their past, that means their relationship is not good. People think that the past is past and never comes back to the present life, so let your past not bother you. But here, in the counselling field, I am told to listen to their past and raise the question that may help your client to open up their history, which surprised me. I do agree that we think that we left our past behind, but we actually have been carrying our past to the present that needs to be addressed to get transformation completely.

Overall, the course is equipping me and reducing my confusion and making me more effective in my counselling field. Furthermore, it has raised my curiosity to learn new thing of  as well as built the compassion for the people more.